Wednesday, 27 April 2016

Plays, Dates and Butterflies


From the title of this post, you can probably already tell that this is a post about nothing in general, just breaking the silence here. Also to update you on my progress with the dates bucketlist, found here. Today we went to watch a Play; Love at War, an adopted play of Shakespeare's The Two Noble Kinsmen, which I loved. It was organised by the British Council, the National Universities Commission and University of Abuja to celebrate Shakespeare's 400th death anniversary. 400 years, can you believe it? One of my favourite luxuries to indulge in while I was still in London was going to the theatre with my sister, I loved the West End Shows and so when I saw the ad for this play on the British Council's twitter account, I didn't hesitate to book J and I in. It was him leaving his comfort zone to go to the theatre, when he could have been indoors watching soccer but he liked it and I'm glad. And since he compromised for me, I pretended not to see him checking the scores online (the things we do for love, haha). Anyways, we've made some progress with ours and I can't wait for us to indulge in more activities together. So I cheated and added 'watch a play' at the end, but who cares? I call the shots here!

Wednesday, 20 April 2016

Ex-Junk in my Trunk


So... Today brings me to the topic of ex ties and how much we are supposed to get rid off. 
I was having an early dinner with J today and he mentions that he needs to clean out his phone because he still has pictures of his ex girlfriend on it. Frankly, I had no reaction to that, partly because I know I still have pictures from past relationships on my laptop especially with Beau (ex). So I let it slide because I refuse to be a hypocrite but I can't shake the thought off; am I supposed to delete all pictures with my ex boyfriend? I know we girls can get quite emotional about our boyfriends still having pictures of their ex on their devices but how many of us have actually cleaned out our closets?

Funny enough this morning I was watching an episode of Everybody Loves Raymond (RIP Doris Roberts) and Ray got all jealous when he found out that Debra kept some harmless memories from her past relationship and then the dinner thing happened. So here I am wondering just how much is meant to be left in the past? Also who decides what constitutes a "harmless memory"? Do you have to delete every picture with your ex in it? I'm all up for cleaning your social media but your archive, what's the rule on that?

Don't judge me but there are some pictures that I look so damn beautiful in and I can't think of losing them, I said don't judge me. But vanity aside, what do you think? Is there some code of conduct for how to go about these things?