Tuesday, 27 October 2015

Hello from the other side

These past couple of days, God has been dealing with me about so many things. I'd like to think I had a heart check up and of course not everything found in there made me happy. I've spent time just being quiet in His presence and letting the Holy Spirit do his work. I mean why interrupt after getting myself into a mess after mess, I best let Him do what only He can do best.

Ok so that accounts for just a couple of days, I can't exactly account for why I've been AWOL for four months. I just didn't ever feel the need to come on here to talk not that I haven't needed an outlet, but somehow I just didn't know how to blog anymore. Shame right?

Well, I finished NYSC, congratulations are in order and I am really glad to have gone through another milestone. Now on to the next one, I must say I'm rather glad that the "so what next?" questions haven't been frequent. Although I'm not sure if it's because I'm avoiding contact with the outer world or cause they are just so tired of shoving that question down my throat. My mother however, is convinced that since I'm still young, another degree is in order, first she suggested a Law degree and now it's a PHD. Mother please. Oh today, she sent me a link on the Bank of Industry's graduate entrepreneurship fund for business people as if she doesn't know I inherited my lack of business from her. Tsk. Well here's the link for entrepreneurs who are interested.

I bet you thought this post was going to be an ode to an ex or about the feelings Adele's new song has evoked. Well not tonight. It is an amazing song though but I'm really just saying hello from the other side. It's been way too quiet and I'm breaking the silence on my blog. 

Wednesday, 17 June 2015

Not That Into You

You hold on to my hand a little longer than you should 
A lingering touch that I know shouldn't be there  

You stare harder than you should 
So I avoid your eyes 
Because I know they hold the untold feelings you wish you could tell me 

And I know and maybe you know that I do 
But what I wish you knew is
I don't feel the same way about you 

Tuesday, 16 June 2015

Losing Myself


I want to lose myself in the skies 
Find myself in the sands of a beach
Or rock climbing in the Himalayas

I want to lose myself in a festival 
Dancing in the streets 
In a blend of coloured powder and euphoria

I want to lose myself in a book
And find myself imprinted on each page
In a perfectly written story

I want to lose myself in a song 
And find myself in a perfectly stringed note
The rhythm and the lyrics 

I want to lose myself in you
Find myself in your eyes
See you the way you see me 

I want to lose myself in your touch 
And find that everything I ever wanted
Was always with you 

Friday, 12 June 2015

The Lynn Syndrome

If you watched girlfriends you'll know what I'm on about. I feel like I'm grabbing on to so many things because I'm scared of failing. And right now I feel exhausted all the time because I've got too much that I'm holding on to yet I don't want to let go for fear of going down. 

French School, Project Management, coupled with work. And yet there's a part of me that still wants to do something. Which is why like a junkie, I found myself at the Open University sometime last week contemplating a diploma course in Peace Studies and Conflict Resolution. Yes, I know degrees and certificates isn't all you need in life (won't even count how many I have but in my defence Lynn had 5 Masters) but there's a huge part of me that keeps hoping to find what I want to do with my life in one of these extra courses. I mean, if you don't put yourself out there, how would you know right? At times like this, I envy the people who have it so easy, who already know from the get go what they want to do. And then I wonder how people out there like me cope, coped or are coping. 

Also I'm sorry I have been awol from blogging but I just have a lot on my plate now. I never really have time for myself but I'm hoping to sort that out pretty soon. And advice you have for me would be greatly appreciated. But my 100 days of happiness challenge is going really well. I feel like I'm at a place where my peace can't be stolen. Yes, it might seem like an irony considering my present dilemma but truly, I'm still happy. 

xoxo

Wednesday, 3 June 2015

Nights Like This


I need you to save me while I'm on the brink
Before I jump into a bottomless pit of depression
On nights like this I need you here
I need your strong arms wrapped around me
Holding me, reassuring me
I need your presence
Even if filled with silence
Because on nights like this
I hate sleeping alone
On nights like this
When the voices in my head seem louder than usual
It's only your voice I want to hear
There's nothing I want more
Than to be in your arms on nights like this

Thursday, 28 May 2015

Orphanage Day Out


There's true joy in making others happy so I can't explain the joy I felt by putting a smile on these orphans' faces. I took them to the cinema where we watched  Noah is Gone, amazing movie by the way. I kept cracking up as well as other adults so don't judge me. Then they had a good time on the bouncy castle and dancing in the courtyard of Silverbird Entertainment Centre. It's safe to say it was an awesome Children's Day for them and I found myself on day 29 of my 100 Days of Happiness challenge feeling boundless joy.







Celebrating Awele, Raising Awareness


I attended a Candle Light Vigil service held in honour of Awele, some of you might know, some not so much. YouTube her documentary, it's inspiring. It was an emotional evening that moved so many to tears. 

Hearing all the lovely things said about her made me wonder what I would be remembered for, as should any living soul do. Considering how uncertain life is. 

What she started must not be forgotten, raising awareness for sickle cell. I have loved ones with sickle cell and I can't imagine half the pain they go through. This is an earnest plea to everyone in my generation, please know your genotype. Like Nura, a SCAF advocate said "love is not enough". But honestly you should love your children enough to not put them through that hell. 

June 19th is World Sicke Cell day, tell someone about it, do a blood test, organise an event, tweet about it or Instagram it. Do something to be a part of sickle cell awareness. 


Monday, 18 May 2015

Half Baked Idea

I'm in a dilemma. I think I'm a realist, at least that's the one thing Horoscopes drum down my ears lol but I tend to think that I am one. My background also plays a huge role seeing as my family is fluent in cynicism and sarcasm. As a result, I tend to overthink things and overanalyze them before presenting them to my family.

Moving on to the relevance of this post. I have this one friend with an entrepreneurial idea, I mean we are in the entrepreneurship age afterall. The only problem is his idea is halfbaked, with so many loopholes and question marks. I may not be much of an entrepreneur but the realist in me is sceptical about how prepared he is for the journey he is about to embark on.

I don't want to sound too skeptical and come off as the unsupporting friend who bows her head in shame if his idea actually succeeds, at the same time, if it should fail, I don't want to feel guilty knowing I could have stopped him from going down that road. So help me, I'm sure I'm not the only one who has felt this way. At what point do you stop being a realist and start being a friend?

Saturday, 16 May 2015

Day 19: 100 Days of Happiness

Amazing night. My day was bleh, nothing special but of course going to French class took me to a 100 real quick. And after class, I went to a photo expiation hosted by the Institute Français of Nigeria (my school by the way). It was so amazing. Great photography, an amazing location for the gallery and it was all so posh and proper LOL. 

That was a picture my friend took, fell in love instantly. Here are some pictures I took from the gallery. I think the exhibition is on all week so feel free to drop by at No 18 Libreville street, off aminu Kano crescent, Wuse 2


















Tuesday, 12 May 2015

Day 16: 100 Days of Happiness Challenge


Woke up feeling sick, had an impromptu spa date with Sally and that got me in a better mood. Btw my feet feel so soft from the pedicure I got that I can't stop caressing everyone and everything with it LOL. 

Mood swung later in the afternoon, so I turned my room upside down and cleaned it. Yeah, cleaning and listening to music/singing along definitely puts me in a good mood. Hahah. 

And right now it's raining, so the day turned out great. Phew, the 100 day streak didn't get ruined. The mind is a funny thing, cause I got an unexpected gift in the morning, you would think that would have sustained my happiness high but I still struggled with mood swings. Smh 

Monday, 11 May 2015

Day 15: 100 Days of Happiness



If life was all about fine dining, what reason could one possibly have to be unhappy? I only discovered this restaurant today on a lunch date and fell in love with the ambience. 

It's somewhat a blend of South East Asia and Africa. I love the bamboo interior with the tree plants (not sure that is the appropriate name) and the paintings that were displayed round the restaurant. I loved that it had an unpretentious yet intimate feel. Friendly staff as well, so for me it's a definite recommendation. 

And I had Oreos for dinner so today was five stars happy all through. Haha ❤️  

Day 14: 100 Days of Happiness Challenge

Where do I even start? Today was absolute perfection. I don't remember feeling sad for even one minute. Surrounded by love, family and friends, what could beat this combination? 

I went for a picnic that turned out to be like a Nigerian Version of Coachella. At least for me, so if I don't get to go to Coachella ever, this would do. I saw so many people I hadn't seen in a while, laughed like crazy and loved a lot. 

Plus, I got to tick one thing off my bucket list *naughty grin* heheheh

Saturday, 9 May 2015

Day 13: 100 Days of Happiness Challenge


When you start a day right, it's hard for it to go south. I got baptised today and it's been amazing amazing day so far. Actually it's been an amazing past couple of days. I found myself sticking my head out the window last night screaming "Je suis très contente" while driving. LOL. Thank God I didn't get stopped and checked into a psych ward. But truly, ever since I made the decision to be happy, my mind, body and soul have had no option but to cooperate. 

So how's your journey going so far?

Tuesday, 28 April 2015

Day 2: 100 Days Happiness Challenge



had such a long day at work that for a second I wasn't sure I would make the second day of theHappiness Challenge but this girl right here, she gives me joy. 

We had an impromptu sleepover filled with laughter and gossip lol. It's truly a blessing to have real friends that are there for you through everything. 

How's the challenge going for you? 

Monday, 27 April 2015

Day 1: 100 Day Happiness Challenge

I'm absolutely at my happiest in French class. I love love how fast I'm learning and how good I'm becoming. By the end of year, I'll be good enough to move to a francophone country.

It's the one thing I look forward to everyday, going to the Institut Français. I've got so many of my friends interested in their classes so y'all should join in too. You'd love it as well. 

xoxo

The 100 Days Happiness Challenge


When I saw this picture, it struck a chord in my heart. Wouldn't it be amazing to make this a challenge? After all, happiness is a choice right? So why not decide to be happy everyday, well for 100 days and eventually it would become a lifestyle. Moreover, research shows that anything done in constant for 21 days becomes a habit. 

So for 100 days, I'm going to decide to be happy on purpose. Now that can't be easy because life throws you curveballs but I'm going to find one thing everyday that makes me happy. And record that day. To make it more interesting, you can make yours a journal, a photo diary or a video diary. So here's to the 100DaysHappinessChallenge. Feel free to tag me on Instagram and Twitter if you're going to do the challenge with me. I'll try as much as possible to record it on the blog but forgive me if some days go unrecorded as I live on a schedule now. 

xoxo
B

Sunday, 19 April 2015

A Post About Nothing In Particular


I can't believe it's been two months since I last blogged. Truth is, I've had so much on my plate plus my laptop has been giving me issues. I had hoped to have it sorted out by now but Apple is giving me a £409 bill to fix my laptop. Crazy huh? I'd rather buy a new one, which is what I'm saving for and trusting God to help me with.

I've started french classes so I have really long days now. From work, which ends at 4, I head to the Institut Francais for a two hour lecture. I love it actually, being busy that is. I've always loved being a busy bee, even though I'm secretly lazy. Walking paradox I tell you. My french has improved greatly, I'm holding mini conversations in french now so that's one thing on my Goal List for this year that I'm confident I'll achieve. Paris, see you soon. Oh I also had a french exam sometime last month and the result comes out tomorrow. They are actually going to post it for everyone to see *welp*. So fingers crossed, I actually do good lol.

I'm in a really good place in my life right now. I feel ridiculously peaceful, I tell you. I don't even react when crazy drivers cut in front of me while driving or misbehave. That's how at peace I am. Oh plus I'm doing a man fast LOL, you have to be in my life to really understand that but it ends May 31st so that's 90 days of not being romantically involved with anyone but Jesus. I've actually enjoyed this Me time so we'll see how that goes.

In summary, the picture above describes my life/mood right now. This is also a post about nothing in particular, just didn't like the fact that my blog's been sitting there with no activity. A friend of mine lent me his laptop to use temporarily, I'm still trying to get used to it. You know there's a different feeling when you use something that isn't yours. Hopefully, I'll blog more but you're never forgotten Scarlett Diary. You were there at my worse xxx

xoxo
B

Monday, 16 February 2015

Love Out Loud

I organised an orphanage visit yesterday on behalf of Valentine's Day to spend time with the kids and show them love. It was truly an amazing experience. Despite how hot it was, we couldn't even stay indoors, the atmosphere was generally jovial. The kids were truly happy to see us as we were happy to see them.

We met different characters and I'm pretty sure from the pictures, you can tell the one boy who stole our hearts. His name is Meshach and he's too adorable for words. He kept laughing and running around, so full of life that his attitude infected all of us. There was also a 3 day old baby in the orphanage which was just sad to witness. I can only pray that these kids get a better life and make good use of the opportunities they have now. We were informed that they all go to school and some have even made it as far as the university. So that's really encouraging to see the orphanage give this kids a sense of family and opportunities. We got to talk with the grown ups and encourage them with some of our life lessons.

And then most importantly, we got to give. Give of our time and our resources. Truly there's joy in giving especially when you give to someone who can't give you anything in return because you know that came from the heart.

I don't think this post could have come at a better time because tomorrow is 'Random Act of Kindness Day'. In your own little way, show love.

"At the end of our lives, we would not be judged by how many diplomas we have received, how much money we have made or how many great things we have done. We will be judged by 'I was hungry and you gave me to eat. I was naked and you clothed me. I was homeless and you took me in"
- Mother Theresa

"Religion that our Father accepts as pure and faultless is this: to look after orphans and widows in their times of distress and to keep oneself pure from being polluted by the world"
- James 1: 27

Photo Credit: Salama

Friday, 13 February 2015

50 Shades of Grey Indeed


No this post is not about the movie, even though it's hitting the cinemas today. It's about Lance Gross' latest shoot with Angela Simmons, Terrence J, Rob Riley, Don Benjamin and many others. As if Lance couldn't get any hotter, to know he's actually a good photographer makes my ovaries do the shoki LOL.

Came across this new shoot he titled, '50 Shades of Bae', UGH, Can he come photograph me please? #CrushingHardRightNow

Check out the full shoot at his website www.LanceGrossPhotography.com. It is really sexy

Book Club: Letters To The Men I Have Loved



This month I'm reading 'Letters to the Men I have Loved'. Now I must confess, this isn't my first time reading this book, it would be my second but I chose it because well, February is the month of love. And I've somehow found myself single yet AGAIN this valentine's lol and the way I connected with this book when I first read it makes me want to revisit the memories again.

It was like Mirtha Michelle took several pages out of my diary and put them together to form a book. Know what I mean? When you can relate so much with a book, poem, song that your soul instantly connects to the art. I was lucky to get an autographed copy for myself and a friend, which makes me feel so special knowing that she personally signed it. Hehe. Anyways, my copy has so many pages underlined, with hearts and asterisk in places I really connected with.

So here's to getting lost in the art again and mentally writing letters to the men I have loved in my own life. The book is available on Amazon and if you're in Nigeria, worry not because Mall for Africa delivers here now. So in Nollywood terms, "grab your copy now". LOL


Tuesday, 10 February 2015

Blogging Hiatus


I'm sorry I've been away and that the Brunch Series hasn't been as consistent as it should be. I might have underestimated what being an adult is like. We all have clashing schedules and so many responsibilities as we are all working, so it's been hard to fix dates and times that fit our schedules. I haven't had as much time to sit and just blog which I feel bad about because blogging is my thing and I haven't been as committed to it as I should.

However I've started work properly as part of my primary assignment for NYSC and it's not so busy so I'll blog as often as I can. I would make the time for it because it is something that I love. And I'll make sure we do finish up the Brunch Post. I'm even slagging behind on some of the things I set out to do in my version of New Year's Resolution (LOL) and that sucks but I will try harder at time management.

Other than that, my life is good (sometimes I wonder who I'm actually talking to). My MA graduation was three weeks ago, I should probably share pictures from that. That's another achievement I'm grateful to God for and also really proud of. I'm starting French School next week monday so very soon I'm going to be really fluent in French. Ugh I'm soo happy. I've really been looking forward to French School. hehe.

Alright random post over. Just wanted to apologise to the faithful readers of this blog for my hiatus and to say I will try harder to blog more. Thanks for understanding.

xoxo
B

Wednesday, 4 February 2015

The Brunch Series: The Quarter Cafe


Bondi: The Quarter Cafe popularly known as Q Cafe is tucked away in a corner in British Village, quite easy to miss if not familiar with the address or the autograph black and white walls that differentiate it from other buildings in the area. My favourite part of Q Cafe is the interior and the decor in general. I find it "Oh so French" with the monochrome palette and chic arrangement. It was a quiet afternoon when we got there and we happened to be the only ones there so we made it our place.

The food was average, found the sausage and beef ham too salty but the waffles were awesome. After all, it is what they are popular for. I was not impressed with the presentation of the food as I found it quite basic but maybe that's how the French do it. BUT the drinks are amazing, the lemonades to be specific. I had the Strawberry Mint Lemonade that was really yummy. As for the customer service, it's nothing to write home about. The host looked a little disinterested in relating with us which doesn't really make for good customer service. Customer service and food presentation could be improved upon.


















Thursday, 15 January 2015

The Brunch Series: Tulip Bistro



Bondi: If you're an avid Instagram user, chances are you follow Tulip Bistro and have come across their mouth watering dishes on their account or other's. I've always wanted to come try it first hand for myself (at the time I was still in London). So of course it was no surprise that Tulip made it to the cut for our Brunch spots and I was quite impressed. It has such a relaxing ambience that you hardly notice the wait time for the food, except you're really hungry. The food was delicious and I was just happy to be eating blueberries after a really long time. I liked that the strawberries were sweet rather than sour.

And if you really want to make an experience out of it, how about heading next door to Fashion Cafe to pick yourself an elegant dress before lunch or the opposite way for tea at the Tea Room to finish off a wonderful day. Luckily for us there was an event at Fashion Cafe, so it made a nice brunch experience for us.



Habibah: Sunday was a quiet evening and we chose to kick it off at Tulip- a good opportunity to step into Fashion Cafe for the "See & Sip" shopping event. 

Not all the time do the staff/host notice another party joining a table which is an err on their customer service. The food was fast and that changed the mood in the table to happy rather than usual as we are accustomed to waiting a while for our food. It was delicious I must say, but we only got asked how our food was at the end rather than half way through. Overall the service was just okay and the food also, because they can do better- especially without the VAT.



Samira: It was a nice Saturday afternoon, surprisingly not very busy at the restaurant. The music added a nice ambience to the restaurant (they had a good playlist on). 

I ordered the anadariya baby chicken and mashed potatoes and to drink I had watermelon juice. The waiters seemed confused at first as to who was taking our order but later found their way. I thought the waiters could be more professional in their conduct. The food came in under 30 minutes which was commendable. The mashed potatoes were perfectly creamy and smooth, and the grilled chicken was grilled just right with no burnt bits. The meal on a whole was really good. 

Generally, it was a good experience, but could have been better if the waiters acted in a more organized professional way i.e. welcome you when you come in, seat you, bring menus immediately, in general be more responsive and attentive. 

Location: 7 Atakpame Street, opposite Ascon filling station, off Adetokunbo Ademola Crescent, Wuse 2
Contact092914833
Must Order: The Anadariya Baby Chicken with Mashed Potatoes. Very divine, I tell you. 
Brunch Budget: N3500 - N5000
Next stop: The Quarter Cafe